{"id":5990,"date":"2021-08-26T17:03:19","date_gmt":"2021-08-26T15:03:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/?p=5990"},"modified":"2021-08-26T17:03:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-26T15:03:20","slug":"nuk-po-mundem-te-marr-fryme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/nuk-po-mundem-te-marr-fryme\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cNuk po mundem t\u00eb marr frym\u00eb\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nuk i kishte shkuar asnj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb mend se ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u2019i duhej t\u00eb p\u00ebrgj\u00ebronte dik\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta lejuar t\u00eb marr\u00eb frym\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00ebrgime Kajtazi, nj\u00eb juriste nga Mitrovica q\u00eb vendosi ta l\u00eb familjen dhe karrier\u00ebn n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, do t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetonte dhun\u00eb fizike e psikike p\u00ebr rreth dy vjet nga bashk\u00ebshorti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00eb vitin 2016, ajo vendosi t\u00eb fejohej dhe t\u00eb shkonte t\u00eb jetonte n\u00eb Shtetet e Bashkuara t\u00eb Amerik\u00ebs, me t\u00eb dashurin kosovar, me t\u00eb cilin kishte qen\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje p\u00ebr dy vjet paraprakisht.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas k\u00ebsaj, pas presionit t\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarit, ajo u martua dhe vendosi t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb n\u00eb Nju Jork.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDi\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk e kam ditur kurr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ka qen\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i dhunsh\u00ebm\u201d, tregon M\u00ebrgimja. Tri dit\u00eb pasi u vendos n\u00eb banes\u00eb, nisi z\u00ebnka e par\u00eb mes \u00e7iftit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cM\u00eb kujtohet kemi qen\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00eb t\u00eb gjumit, ai ka qen\u00eb duke folur di\u00e7ka dhe un\u00eb vet\u00ebm e kam kthyer kok\u00ebn dhe i kam th\u00ebn\u00eb se nuk dua ta d\u00ebgjoj\u201d, tregon ajo p\u00ebr Radion Evropa e Lir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas k\u00ebsaj, ajo thot\u00eb se burri e kapi nga krahu dhe kok\u00ebn e saj e mbajti t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb shtrat duke ia z\u00ebn\u00eb frym\u00ebn p\u00ebr rreth 30 sekonda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cO Zot, \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh\u201d, ishte gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb M\u00ebrgimja mund t\u00eb mendonte pasi thot\u00eb se ende nuk po e perceptonte se burri i saj, mund ta l\u00ebndoj\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb jav\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, M\u00ebrgimja nisi pun\u00ebn dhe at\u00eb dit\u00eb, bashk\u00ebshorti e sulmoi dhe ia zuri frym\u00ebn s\u00ebrish, pas zem\u00ebrimit se ajo kishte p\u00ebrdorur deodorant n\u00eb kuzhin\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cAq ka qen\u00eb shokuese dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb e kam marr si d\u00ebshtim personal. Un\u00eb e lash\u00eb pun\u00ebn, familjen dhe shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb (n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb). Truri im nuk e perceptonte se un\u00eb jam viktim\u00eb e dhun\u00ebs\u201d, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sulmet vazhduan, sipas saj, p\u00ebr arsye nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cKur ai vendoste t\u00eb m\u00eb rrihte, un\u00eb e dija. \u00c7far\u00ebdo q\u00eb un\u00eb do t\u00eb thosha nuk kishte r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi\u201d, tregon M\u00ebrgimja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nd\u00ebr sulmet e shpeshta, sipas M\u00ebrgimes, p\u00ebrfshinin kafshime t\u00eb duarve deri n\u00eb gjakosje, shuplaka e grushte e deri n\u00eb tortur\u00eb q\u00eb mos ta linte M\u00ebrgimen t\u00eb flinte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ajo detyrohej edhe t\u00eb kryente marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale me bashk\u00ebshortin, ndryshe do ta rrihte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cAbuzuesit dhe viktimat nuk dallohen vet\u00ebm n\u00eb dukje\u201d<br>Duke u ndier\u00eb fajtore dhe shum\u00eb e frik\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr t\u2019i treguar familjes s\u00eb saj, M\u00ebrgimja duroi tortur\u00eb fizike p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ndihm\u00eb nuk gjeti as nga familja e bashk\u00ebshortit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i than\u00eb se \u201cduhet ta rrudh\u00ebsh goj\u00ebn\u201d dhe se \u201cgrat\u00eb e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb [dhun\u00ebn]\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ajo tregon se ndihej e pashpres\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr faktin se gjendej e vetme, n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb huaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cPata dal\u00eb nj\u00ebher\u00eb nga sht\u00ebpia duke vrapuar deri te Stacioni i Policis\u00eb, por m\u00eb ka z\u00ebn\u00eb dhe m\u00eb ka kthyer\u201d, tregon ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cE dija q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb besonte askush sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb njeri sharmant\u201d, tregon M\u00ebrgimja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.faxweb.al\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/mergime-kajtazi1-1-800x493.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1204439\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ajo thot\u00eb se duhet ta dij\u00eb \u00e7dokush, \u00ebsht\u00eb se dhuna n\u00eb \u00e7ift ndodh te njer\u00ebzit e profileve t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ajo thot\u00eb se edhe aft\u00ebsit\u00eb manipuluese t\u00eb abuzuesve dhe ndjenja e fajit t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs, b\u00ebn q\u00eb viktimat t\u00eb heshtin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cAbuzuesit jan\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb manipulant\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. T\u00eb manipulojn\u00eb aq shum\u00eb, sa q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb dyshosh realitetin t\u00ebnd\u201d, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kulmi i k\u00ebsaj situate arriti n\u00eb vitin 2018. Ajo arriti ta incizoj\u00eb at\u00eb, duke siguruar prova p\u00ebr sulmet q\u00eb ia kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Policia e arrestoi bashk\u00ebshortin e saj. Ai kaloi nj\u00eb nat\u00eb n\u00eb burg, u d\u00ebnua me pun\u00eb t\u00eb detyrueshme \u2013 sh\u00ebrbim n\u00eb komunitet dhe u d\u00ebrgua n\u00eb nj\u00eb program rehabilitues lidhur me abuzuesit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mir\u00ebpo qet\u00ebsia e M\u00ebrgimes i erdhi me urdh\u00ebrin mbrojt\u00ebs, q\u00eb i siguronte asaj q\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorti nuk do ta kontaktonte apo t\u2019i afrohej, p\u00ebrndryshe do t\u00eb d\u00ebnohej me pes\u00eb vjet burgim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ajo tanim\u00eb vazhdon jet\u00ebn atje dhe programet n\u00eb SHBA i kan\u00eb ndihmuar t\u00eb siguroj\u00eb lejeq\u00ebndrimin si dhe t\u00eb marr\u00eb ndihm\u00eb psikologjike.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cN\u00eb Kosov\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb mendimi se grat\u00eb vlejn\u00eb m\u00eb pak se burrat\u201d<br>Megjith\u00ebse M\u00ebrgimja p\u00ebrjetoi dhun\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb shtet shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilluar se Kosova, ajo beson fuqish\u00ebm se kjo dhun\u00eb ka nj\u00eb burim n\u00eb mend\u00ebsin\u00eb patriarkale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cProblemi m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb [disa] burra shqiptar\u00eb rriten n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrnj\u00ebmend mendojn\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb nga Zoti q\u00eb ta rrahin nj\u00eb grua dhe ta \u2018b\u00ebjn\u00eb njeri\u2019\u201d, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Protesta e revolta kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs ndaj grave n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, u nis\u00ebn s\u00ebrish dit\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit pas rastit t\u00eb vrasjes s\u00eb vajz\u00ebs 18-vje\u00e7are, nga Ferizaj t\u00eb diel\u00ebn m\u00eb 22 gusht. T\u00eb dyshuar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb vrasje jan\u00eb partneri i saj dhe nj\u00eb burr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Edhe M\u00ebrgimja i ka p\u00ebrcjellur reagimet lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se kultura e faj\u00ebsimit t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs dhe arsyetimit t\u00eb abuzuesve po vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb prezente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDhunuesi \u00ebsht\u00eb dhunues dhe marrja \u00ebsht\u00eb e tij dhe kjo kurr\u00eb s\u2019ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar\u201d, deklaron ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u00ebrve\u00e7 q\u00eb shteti, sipas M\u00ebrgimes, duhet t\u2019i ket\u00eb mekanizmat e duhur p\u00ebr parandalim dhe d\u00ebnim t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs ndaj grave, ajo thot\u00eb se shoq\u00ebria si dhe z\u00ebri i ngritur i viktimave t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj situate, mund t\u2019i ndihmoj\u00eb viktimat e tjera.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cN\u00ebse historia ime i ndihmon vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb gruaje tjet\u00ebr, ta nxjerr\u00eb veten prej k\u00ebsaj situate, un\u00eb jam m\u00eb e lumtura n\u00eb bot\u00eb\u201d, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Deri n\u00eb qershor t\u00eb vitit 2021, sipas Policis\u00eb s\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs, u sh\u00ebnuan dy raste t\u00eb vrasjes s\u00eb grave, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb vitin 2020 ishin vrar\u00eb shtat\u00eb gra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sipas t\u00eb dh\u00ebnave vet\u00ebm deri n\u00eb qershor t\u00eb vitit 2021, u sh\u00ebnuan 1.132 raste t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs n\u00eb familje, 1.063 viktima nga k\u00ebto raste ishin gra.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nuk i kishte shkuar asnj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb mend se ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u2019i duhej t\u00eb p\u00ebrgj\u00ebronte dik\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta lejuar t\u00eb marr\u00eb frym\u00eb. M\u00ebrgime Kajtazi, nj\u00eb juriste nga Mitrovica q\u00eb vendosi ta&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5991,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"cybocfi_hide_featured_image":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[39],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5990","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kurizitete"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5990","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5990"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5990\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5992,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5990\/revisions\/5992"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5991"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5990"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5990"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parleralbania.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5990"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}